Skip to main content

Words unspoken... Tears unwiped!


"I said NO.... I will not let him do my "kanya dan"! Its my wedding! n if your decision is final that he will do my "kanya dan", i better run away before the date of wedding! i have suffered a lot... now enough is enough! "- SHE almost cried saying all this..SHE is Bride.. going to get married after 2 days! SHE is angry! SHE is not happy n excited as normal girls feel at the time of their wedding! 

SHE is afraid... afraid of that face.. those eyes..   

SHE hates him like hell! 

SHE dont want to pass through the trauma n hell again! 

SHE want to live happily.. 

SHE want to live SAFE.. SAFE from HIM! Away from HIM...
...............................................................................................................

before 12-13 years...

"Mom, why we are going to uncle's home? i dont like to be there! please dont take me there forcefully!" SHE said wid wet eyes!
-- "dont worry beta, you will have fun there i bet! just imagine its you sister's wedding! we will have to go! its a family occasion! "- MOTHER hadn't observed the tears n the worry in HER eyes!

"Mom, where you are going ? i also want to come out with you.. please... i dont want to be here alone! i will not trouble you promise!" - SHE felt sick n pissed off! she almost begged!
-- " Its so hot climate outside dear... n we are not going on picnic honey.. we will be back soon! till then you can play wid you cousine bro.. He told me he has braught a good movie that you both can watch this noon together at home when we leave.. trust me dear.. its a tough shopping for wedding! you are my good gal,, now let me go!"- MOTHER agin avoided her emotions!



"No i dont want to see anything! this movie is.... i have never seen such movies before.. i am going to study room BHAIYA.. please let me go! Please.. leave me! i don't like it! "...SHE almost ran to study room... got inside and locked the room... HE asked HER to open it up for a tea, some breakfast... but SHE was afraid ! SHE was not aware what was happening with HER, but SHE knew what HE is trying to do is BAD.. n SHE shldnt let HIM, despite of the fact that HE is HER cosine brother! n SHE was horrified seeing a movie of all naked characters! SHE was feeling Dirty of HIS touch and wanted to have bath... to clean her soul...

" Mom... i had a bad dream today... please tonight sleep wid me! and promise me when u wake up , you will wake me up! don't leave me alone.. please mom! " SHE requested her mom to wake up her early as soon as she wake up , though SHE  loved to sleep till late... SHE was afraid... afraid of those foot steps coming towards her , those hands trying to explore her under her blanket!

"Mom, i want to tell you something serious! please listen to me! Mom Bro is.... " - SHE tried to break the Ice finally!
"What you are talking about me little one? " HE asked...

silence....

SHE tried to protect herself as much as possible.. at certain limit!

SHE was a kid.. but HE wasn't!
SHE always hated HIM... for all HE always tried to do wid HER....
but SHE hated HER PARENTS more for never understanding her worry, her cries!

SHE escaped to her studies..
SHE avoided all family occasions , frightened of HIS presence! SHE rarely been to uncle's home.. now HE was married.. but HE was still demanding!
SHE was still afraid!

years after years passed... SHE always felt a pain while talkin to any male.. SHE was never comfortable with any male, specially dealing alone!





Eventually one of HER friend found her problem ...
HE loved HER...
HE helped HER to understand all MEN are not same!
HE explored a beautiful world to HER... HE made HER worry free...

HE was  different!

SHE and HE are now getting married!
SHE is now matured, bold!

SHE told everything clearly to HER parents!
Poor she! HER own parents trusted HER so called Brother more then HER! May be because HE had a clean n ideal impression on the whole family!
SHE was broken again!

SHE is getting married but SHE is not happy!

HER parents suggested as HER cosine loves HER like real sister and is too concerned @ HER, HE should do HER "KANYA-DAN".....................

How SHE can tolarate that? HER parents didnt believe HER.. but SHE was strong now! HER LOVE made her strong!

" IF my beloved brother is going to do my KANYA-DAN , its better i run away wid my hubby before wedding! the hand wich tried to molest me cant be so holy to do my kanya-dan! and thanx mom-papa for making my wedding so memorable! " -- SHE was crying... n all those years SHE lived in horror clicked to her at once... All the pain SHE had faced ached HER at the same time!

Why ? Why parents dont understand sometimes?
Why some relations cant keep its repect!
Why some kids are forced to be matured so horribly?

"Being parent you are not just responsible to earn for you kid, or to fulfill her/his needs! you are also responsible to understand his/her unspoken words.. You are responsible to wipe his/her unreasonable tears! you are responsible to trust her/his silliest story and anylise its cause! " 


- Its tough to be parent!  

Comments

dev said…
This angers me and saddens me! Yes many girls around face this and suffer this in silence in varying degrees. How difficult it can be to trust! All I want to see is every single girl being empowered physical and mentally and ofcourse parents'(specially mother's) love and protection till she grows up to take care of herself. I know this sounds idealistic but hope that can save atleast some.
bhumika said…
@DEV...
true!
n what i have written is a true incident!
reader may not understand its impact, bt it makes a permanent mark on the gal's heart n soul!
its real painful!
Ashish Dhedhi said…
I feel the ladies are missing yet another aspect which is equally important. Not only a girl child is always victim of child molestation. Little guys are not even spared from kindergartens to hostels n colleges...

If the kids(gals n guys) are educated regarding sex from the very begining, they wont think of it as taboo and will also be frank enough to speak up in case something indecent is happening with them...

Also, our generation should also keep vigil on kids and on the people are who try to be too cosy with them so the same can be avoided at initial stage itself.
bhumika said…
@aashish
absolutely right!
i agree that both gal n boy are victim wid same probability!
and its painful regardless gender !

its true, sex educations is essential! when my kid will ask me ne such Question, i will explain her scientific truth, without hiding nething!

yeah, parents need to take a hell care ...
Unknown said…
very true madam...how much girls have to suffer!!!
Pinakin said…
realy a horifying truth of our socity.
this is not the first incidenti herd abt this but we can do nothing yar.brother and sister is holy reltionship and thats why girls feel secure with his brother.i realy say here that i got my eye wet to read it.we just hope that nobody suffer from this.
there are so many ppl around us who live just like tht...and so many ppl even dnt want to hear tht wht them child want to say..?? evn what them child want ?? some parents actually cant understand and even sometime its also happen what happen with that girl she told everything but her parents nt blv on wht she said..well said dear..
Jay said…
I asboslutely agree that its not about a boy or a girl and that it has a huge impact on a person's life.
Jessie said…
Parental guidance is very important factor in order to the children learn what is right and wrong.

Rio Pousadas
Hostels said…
This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
Hostels said…
This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.

Popular posts from this blog

"While wiping Evil thoughts from devil Head! "

"Finish your household stuff early today. today Bhabhi is visiting us with her parents. [bhabhi - my beloved jethani , who s more friend n less jethani!] ,should i bring some cold-drink from out? " - keyur asked me takin last Byte of RAJBHOG! [ RAJBHOG - on every saturday  keyur keeps fast, so we do have a heavy menu for dinner, n i call it rajbhog. , FAST - in our definition, havin Fast means just changing menu, eat lots of fruits/ moraiyo/sabudanani khichadi/ sukibhaji/bataka ni chhin/ waffers/ sabudana na vada... n list goes on!, i may not be too good in cookin variety of Routine Food, but i am master in cooking "FARADI FOOD" !] "Ahha, thats Good. why dont u bring fanta/mirinda/mango drink [ as this drinks resembles to juice, they provide good choice!] ? dont forget to bring fruity for hetvi! she will not have anything else then that! , hey keyur - have i told you ,-You Are the Best husband in the World? " - i smiled back, knowing keyur will not a

લાઈફ સફારી-૧૧૪: : મેનેસ્ત્રુંપીડીયા- ગર્લી પ્રોબ્લેમનું કોમિક સોલ્યુશન

***  લાસ્ટ વિકમાં સૌથી વધુ ચર્ચાયેલા અને ગુગલ પર સર્ચ થયેલા ઇન્ડિયન કોણ ? જો તમારો જવાબ હશે - નરેન્દ્ર મોદી , નીતીશ કુમાર , લાલુ યાદવ , અરવિંદ કેજરીવાલ - તો બોસ - તમે કૈક મિસ છો ! બિહારની ચુંટણીની ચર્ચામાં તમે કદાચ એ ગોસીપ મિસ કરી દીધી છે - જે આમ તો એકદમ હોપલેસ અને ફાલતું ઇસ્યુ પર હતી , છતાં આખા ભારતે એના પર આઘાત - પ્રત્યાઘાત આપ્યા હતા . સોશિયલ મીડિયામાં જેણે એક બોલ્ડ ટોપિક પર ચર્ચા આરંભી દીધી હતી . હજુ ધ્યાનમાં નથી આવતું ? કલુ આપીયે ? આપણે અહી વાત કરી રહ્યા છે બોગ બોસ -8 ના એક ચર્ચાસ્પદ સ્પર્ધક અને બોલીવુડની એક ગુજ્જુ અભિનેત્રી વચ્ચે છેડાયેલા જંગની કે જેને લોહીયાળ રંગ લીધો ! નાં , આપને કોઈ બોલીવુડીયા ગોસીપ નથી જ કરવી . પણ આ વાક - યુદ્ધનાં છેડે રહેલા એક ગંભીર પ્રશ્ન પર વાત કરવાની છે . તો આ સામાજિક પ્રશ્ન સુધી પહોંચવા જાણીએ આ હાઈ - પ્રોફાઈલ ચર્ચા . *** બીગ બોસ -8 માં અત્યંત ચર્ચાસ્પદ રહેલા સ્પર્ધક કુશલ ટંડને સોશિય

Vidyanagar revealed : few snaps, many memories.....

BIRLA VISHVAKARMA MAHAVIDYALAYA   A PREMIER INSTITUTION OF  CVM FOUNDED IN  1948 Motto:  Work is Worship First Approved by Government as grant paid College More than  16000  engineers Graduated. Degrees offered –  B.E. ,  M.E.  and  PhD C-Cube....  A cyber cafe , a cafe , where one can enjoy his/her space as well as the food with friends!  A place i love the most!  the day when i had seen a new building of hotel in place of it, i remember , i had cried like have lost some one very dear! Ajay book stall :: A small store of books in 1999, is now a real big super book stall, where you can find any technical or non-technical book!  Its situated at nana bazar! Bhaikaka Library::  Almost all students have enjoyed reading in this huge library!  Nasta house ! jay yogeshwar nasta house!  chai/coffee, maska bun!  maza ni life!