કોફી WiTh ભુમિકા ....

“I got married when I was just 16! I was studying in 11 th and got married, at that time I was not even aware @ meaning of marriage ! at my home I had never lifted even my plate after lunch/dinner….i was very sharp in studies and loved studies a lot! But had to give up studies after marriage…after marriage my mother-in-law always treated me like a servant and had to even listen her “shloks” for making minor mistakes! At the age of 18 , I was mother of 2 kids, when actually I was kid from heart! What was my fault? My mother-in-law made me suffer a lot! But today she realizes all as her daughter is passing through same type of problems… for me she was harsh.. n for her daughter she feels pain! That’s life!” – “A” aunty said remembering the pain she had gone through! You will hear such same dialogue from many “A”, “B” or ”C” named females in the age of 50-60 years! “mumma, yesterday I tried to make “shira” [ type of halwa] for heer , but felt it was too sticky and was not as good as

"hey , why you are showing such an attitude toward getting married? dont u wanna get married? freedom, own space and responsibilities are all just excuses... for not getting married! i mean its right age, u are almost of my age.... and see i am even having a baby at this age! whats the problem? what u wanna do with ur life? dont u think each age has its own physical and emotional need?" i literally shoted this time on my friend... ac tualy i had explained her the same point several times before... and this time i wanted her to respond! she is my train friend![ we are travelling by same train from last 6 months , and its my nature to make friends around... ] .. lets call her as "A"... "A" heard my almost shout tone, and smiled.. [though her eyes blinked with pain!] "A" thought for some time and replied" can we stop for a coffee here?"... [generally "A" is always in hurry and she literally runs to catch a bu

"Javeri says that of a total of 58,319 dowry cases registered in the country in 2004, as many as 10,491 (18 per cent) could not even be charge-sheeted as the grounds were frivolous. Of the 47,828 (82 per cent) charge-sheeted, only 5,739 (9.8 per cent) were convicted. In other words, 24,127 (41 per cent) were acquitted as they were innocent, needlessly harassed due to faulty investigation, false complaints and bad prosecution. The Centre for Social Research has indicated that 98 per cent of cases filed under IPC section 498A are false. [ HT ] " whenever there is a dowry case, a rape case, domestic violense case, or any case wich involves male/female both g enders.... normally we judge it very easily, without going in details.... we conclude fast and always believe that "man involved in that perticular case is only guilty!" now thats injustice! before 50-60 years... it was a different era, when women were helpless, poor, treated as slave... and crimes against women we

I express my deepr regret to all my friends , whom i hurt without any intentions in my last post! specially to all my NRI friends, [ u all may be aware that all my close friends are NRI...!], i never meant to say that all NRIs are selfish... or anything like that.... i just meant that the people those are taking decisions just for fast money and good living and feel india is just a dirty city, full of crime, where no1 can get job upto knowledge level and system is biased, are making mistake.... i am really sorry if my writing hurt ne1... i admit i am immature writer and views of my friends mean a lot for me! thanks for guiding me for my mistake...

Being Indian!!! does that mean just singing our National Anthem? [ sometimes without having the knowledge that while singing national anthem we need to stand up in respect!] or it means saving our great culture by opposing each [possible change by saying "Ye hamari sabhyata ke khilaf he!"... [ can a TV show damage our great culture? ] Or it means wearing Khadi but praising and promoting Foreign company brands?? [ how many of us have at least 1 khadi outfit in our wardrobe? n how often we use it? ] does that means the craze to study and getting settled abroad, and still celebrating all Indian festival , missing India badly! [for an example:: if my family is middle class, my father is not understanding my goals or cant give me platform to develp myself, if my mother is half or not educated .... do i ask other families to adopt me???? CANT WE FIND BEST EDUCATION AND OPPORTUNITIES IN INDIA? or WE DON'T TRY? ] I am confused!!!! [ don't worry i am born confused!, its n

"Life is change!" - head [mind] says.... heart says -- " i hate changes!" Sometimes we know the truth, but we dont like to follow it or accept it.. "life is change" ... but do we like or accept change?? why suddenly i am askin all these question? I have not received any "brahm Gyan"... but i am nowadyas going through this difficult process of "CHANGE"...and thats why my mind is raising all this question... Today i am lookin back to my Past.. and i am very surprised.. Path of my life has been so much uncertain and the ways which i have selected or the choices i have made are all done using Heart only! i dont know why, but my heart has always been ruling my mind, which is wrong practically! still i cant say my heart has taken bad decisions[though i have paid a lot for them!] and i feel content as even after taking a bad deal my life has been heading on the way of happiness! These days i had a big CHANGE again... just changed job for bet