ગેંગરેપનો ભોગ બન્યાં બાદ તરુણી અને તેનો પરિવાર માનસકિ રીતે ભાંગી ચૂકયાં છે. સમાજમાં માનથી માથું ઊચું કરીને ફરતા અને સ્વમાનથી જીવતા આ પરિવારની દશા અને દિશા બંને બદલાઈ ચૂકયાં છે. બે- ચાર વર્ષ પછી દીકરીના ધામધૂમથી લગ્ન કરાવવાના કોડ લઇને ફરતાં માતાપિતાનાં અરમાનો પણ ચકનાચૂર થઈ ગયા છે. "
--- DO WE CALL OURSELVES HUMAN???i m addict to read news paper in morning. its my habit from last 10-15 years. news are food for my thoughts. but from some days.... i am being pessimistic and negative reading newspapers. reason is -- every day news papers contain 1 or more news @ rape! i feel dumb reading it and feel helpless thinking @ victims .
we are evolving fast! technology is evolving with speed. humans are trying to compete GOD! we are progressing!!!!
progressing!!! progressing in terms of power? progressing in terms of inhumanity? progressing in terms of insensitivity? progressing in terms of being insane ? progressing in terms of being cruel? progressing in terms of being selfish???
we are asking for equality of men/women.... women managing house, family, job, aims... and struggling to prove their independence and individuality! but still women are treated like an object, just for pleasure. more and more women are being manipulated physically and emotionally! sometimes, women surrender, sometimes they fight back!
being a mother of girl child, the news which i have marked above has pained me a lot... i feel like world is not safe for her.. i feel like whom i can trust when i m at job? what i should do , so that she can take care of herself? [i think, self defense and sex-education timely can be answer... still i wonder!]...
now its time:: time to get united... time to do something for reforming our values and trust to humanity!
lets try together to be HUMAN again!
HELP FROM WEB::
- Rape is forced, unwanted sexual intercourse. Rape, sometimes also called sexual assault, can happen to both men and women of any age.
- Rape is about power, not sex. A rapist uses actual force or violence — or the threat of it — to take control over another human being. Some rapists use drugs to take away a person's ability to fight back. Rape is a crime, whether the person committing it is a stranger, a date, an acquaintance, or a family member.
- Rape isn't just physically damaging, it can be emotionally traumatic as well. The right emotional attention, care, and support can help a person begin the healing process and prevent lingering problems later on.
- Someone who has been raped might feel a lot of things: angry, degraded, frightened, numb, or confused. It's also normal for someone who has been raped to feel ashamed or embarrassed. Some people withdraw from friends and family. Others don't want to be alone. Some feel depressed, anxious, or nervous.
- Sometimes the feelings surrounding rape may show up in physical ways, such as trouble sleeping or eating. It may be hard to concentrate in school or to participate in everyday activities. Sometimes it may feel like you'll never get over the trauma of the rape. Experts often refer to these emotions — and their physical side effects — as rape trauma syndrome. The best way to work through them is with professional help.
SEEK MEDICAL HELP::
- The first thing someone who has been raped needs to do is see a medical doctor. Most medical centers and hospital emergency departments have doctors and counselors who have been trained to take care of someone who has been raped. It's important to get medical care because a doctor will need to check you for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and internal injuries.
- You should get medical attention right away without changing your clothes, showering, douching, or washing. It can be hard not to clean up, of course — it's a natural human instinct to wash away all traces of a sexual assault. But being examined right away is the best way to ensure you get proper medical treatment.
- immediate medical attention also helps when people decide to report the crime, providing evidence needed to prosecute the rapist if a criminal case is pursued. If you've been raped and think you don't want to report it, you could change your mind later — this often happens — and having the results of a medical exam can help you do this. (There are laws, known as statutes of limitations, that give a person only a certain amount of time to pursue legal action for a crime, though, so be sure you know how long you have to report the rape. A local rape crisis center can advise you of the laws in your area.)
- Even if you don't get examined right away, it doesn't mean you can't get a checkup later. It's always best to see a doctor immediately after a rape, of course. But a person can still go to a doctor or local clinic to get checked out for STDs, pregnancy, or injuries any time after being raped. In some cases, doctors can even gather evidence several days after a rape has occurred.
WHAT HAPPENS IN MEDICAL EXAMINATION???
- When you go to the hospital after a rape, a trained counselor or social worker will listen while you talk about what happened. Talking to a trained listener can help you begin to release some of the emotions you are probably feeling so that you can start to feel calm and safe again.
- The counselor may also talk with you about the medical exam and what it involves. Each state or jurisdiction has different requirements, of course, but here are some of the things that may happen during the medical exam:
- A medical professional will test you for STDs, including HIV/AIDS. These tests may involve taking blood or saliva samples. Although the thought of getting an STD after a rape is extremely scary, the quicker a person finds out about any infection, the more effectively he or she can be treated. Doctors can start you on immediate treatment courses for STDs, including HIV/AIDS, that will greatly increase your protection against developing these diseases.
- If you're female, a medical professional may treat you to prevent an unwanted pregnancy, if you wish.
- A medical professional will examine you internally to check for any injury that might have been caused by the rape.
- A medical professional or trained technician may look for and take samples of the rapist's hair, skin, nails, or bodily fluids from your clothes or body.
- If you think you've been given a rape drug, a doctor or technician can test for this, too. Be aware that this toxicology test covers any and all illegal drugs.
At any time during the medical exam, you can say if you don't want a certain test performed or evidence collected. All procedures are being done to help you, so you have control over which procedures you'd like done, as well as a say in any you don't want.